Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Tips To Get Them Back!

How to get Your EX Back!
You Want Her Back – What to Do to Make Your Ex Come Back
As most of us have experienced by know, breakups are hurtful, and sadly can’t be avoided. The direction that a relationship can take can make it damn near necessary to break up.
Now, what if you realized what went wrong?
What if you knew what to do to make the relationship work?
Imagine yourself finally happy with the person you love...the smell of their skin and the feeling of their warm bodies…
Remember the feelings you had when you first kissed. The sound of their voice while you whispered whimsically in each other’s ears…Do you want those feelings to return?
If you’re wondering “I want her back but what can I do to get her back?” then you’ve come to the right place.
We can all agree that, breaking up is never easy, and if it can be avoided or worked through, we would most certainly avoid them from happening.
If your break up was a mistake, then it’s not too late to get your ex back.
Many factors that cause breakups, and they can vary from;
  • Lack of communication
  • Minimal quality time spent with your significant other
  • Multiple trust issues
  • “The Past” …needless to say, next to “lack of communication” this can sometimes cause the majority of the problems for some.
So what happens after a break up?
More often than not, when a loved one leaves us, we tend to have a feeling of loss, and despair. We maintain a state of shock, and it leaves us with a sense of uncertainty of what we’re meant to do, or how to move forward in our lives.
This leads to a slew of common mistakes, which we ALL have been guilty off. Ultimately this leads to an utmost counter-productive situation, where you are hurting the chances of regaining your relationship, rather than creating a concrete stepping stone in regaining the affection of your loved one.
You may now be asking yourself…”What are some of those mistakes, and how can I avoid falling into that downward spiral?” Here are a few of the most common ones that I have personally witnessed, and yes, I too have been guilty of them:
  • Incessant calling without response from them, in other words calling them over, and over again
  • Late night calling, after a long night of heavy alcohol consumption (the classic “Drunk Dial”)
  • Claiming your Undying love for them
  • Acting in desperation and stating that you’ll do anything to get her back
  • Facebook stalking, and spying on them either through friends, social networks or in extreme cases, physically stalking them
In retrospect, doing these things won’t help you, but you’re not in the proper mindset to determine this just yet. All these acts do is scream desperation and this will cause your ex to never want to come back if you continue with that type of behavior.
Now comes the big question…What should you do?
In order to maintain your ex from complexly cutting you out her their lives, you DONT need to stalk her, keep calling her or harassing her friends and family.
Your ex is well aware that you want them back. There is no need to continuously remind them over and over. As of now, they are in control of the situation. They are holding all the “cards” and are toying with you and stringing you along. It may not be for malicious intent, but they are well aware of you “availability” and extreme affection towards them, since…well since you declared it so openly before.
So let me help you out with some quick insight.
What you need to do is regain control of your situation first.
At this moment you ex is not even considering returning to your arms because they are in control. They may or may not have initiated the breakup, but if they did, they think they have the upper hand in this situation. And while you’re still trying to wrap your head around the situation, they are taking full control and advantage, while you remain ‘helpless’ and lost.
How do we regain control?
Well lets imagine how things would be if it we reverse the situation. Imagine if your ex was the one calling you up.
  • -THEY are the ones that want to see you.
  • -THEY are the ones whom are waiting for your phone calls.
  • -THEY are the ones professing their undying love.
They will be missing you and you have the power to get them to do whatever you want without needing to say a word. Let’s not mistake this for a mind games. In fact part of the process is to make your ex think it was their idea to want to come back.
OK, you are probably asking, “How can I Make this work for ME!?”
No matter what your situation is, you can start changing the direction that your relationship is taking and start working for a better future with the ones that you love.
All it takes is one step. Click on the link below to start taking action and regaining control. It includes a short video packed with information on how to get started today!

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Get your ex back! You're Doing it Wrong!


Have you ever had these thoughts when finally breaking up? I wonder what they are doing.  I wonder who they are with.  What can I do to get them back!? These are some of the most commonly known questions we all ask ourselves when finally ending a relationship. I’m sure some would disagree stating, “Are you crazy! I’m glad that relationship is over!” But for the majority of us, it is something totally different.
It’s a process, we all know that. But how can I stream line this process? How can I achieve success?
Well to answer these questions we need to ask ourselves. “Do I want my ex back?” or “Do I want my ex NOW!”
Although they may seem like they are similar questions, if you focus on them you can realize that they hold a very different meaning.
Let start with the main question, “How can I get my ex back NOW!” When you approach the process of regaining your relationship, the use of the word now is what makes a difference. For example, when you have the feeling of wanting to get your ex back NOW, it causes an anxious and nervous emotional responses, which ultimately leads to failure.  Most of us have experienced this, either the one at fault or on the receiving end. The main cause of this demise is the amount of value that we remove from ourselves. You are trying everything you can think of and let’s face it, running around chasing your ex; calling her or texting her every five minutes, being at her beck and call, causes more separation from goal than you may think. If you don’t value yourself, how can you expect your ex to want to get back together or see you or your previous relationship with any value?
Now when you approach a relationship with the mentality of getting your ex back, it becomes a more magnetic emotion. It adds value to yourself and to the actual relationship. It adds more of an importance to what the relationship is. It eliminates the feeling of illusion of being weak and needy and shows your ex that you value the relationship and the value that you place in yourself. Confidence is one of the most appealing factors anyone can display and the ones you love will notice this as well.
Once you determine that your relationship is valuable and you have though the process through, of what when wrong in your relationship and what you can do to make it work again. Then you can say that, it isn’t just some fling or a feeling of just being “used to” having someone around. Then you can pursue the relationship without any doubts of doing anything wrong. Because you thoughts are clear and you are aware of the process it takes to get your ex back.
When we sit back and wonder, How can I get my ex back? There is a complete system that we need to follow in order to improve our chances of success. Many factors play a role in achieving this success.  Follow the links above to get some additional information to get you on your way.